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How I Gave Up the Drank… Easily-ish pt 2 of 2

How I Gave Up the Drank… Easily-ish pt 2 of 2

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i drink as much as I want nothingYesterday I posted my journey on how I gave up the sauce. So how has it been so far? I’ll give you a brief breakdown by month.

The first month was a blast
I was so high on life at what I had committed to that it just flew by. I did all the usual things like go out to dinner and parties and stuck to my mantra, ‘no thanks, I don’t drink’. At the end of the first month, it started to wear off. I knew I needed help to live the life I wanted without this Wine Witch over my head.

Month two was a month of inwardness
I read as many books on the subject that I could to get inspiration from people who had completed the same task. However, to be honest, a lot of the books out there were along the lines of “I needed to give it up else I would die, but I’m not happy about it”. I didn’t want to look at life so bleakly. I didn’t just want to give up alcohol; I wanted to be BETTER off without it. So I tried a bit harder and found the book “Kick the Drink… Easily!” by Jason Vale. This was the pivotal point in my mindset against alcohol – he addressed every argument you or anyone else could ever have in your head about the subject and how to mind hack yourself out if it. In fact, he was so good at it that you kind of felt like a bit of a chump for ever drinking in the first place, it was that easy. After reading this, I knew I had found my way to succeed at this and live a better life for it.

The third month, I have to say was BORING
I was so so so so booooored. I had made this decision about my life, and there was no way back, however, I was yet to find out what was next. There was a big part of my life that I no longer wanted to live, but I didn’t have anything else yet. This was the month I started doing yoga, meditating and reading a lot of books on Buddhism. Saturday morning at 9 o’clock was always yoga – how amazing is that! Me, waking up on Saturday, no hungover, to be at yoga at 9am. Wow.

At the start, although I loved what all that meant, I was actually quite sad. A lot of the things I had avoided thinking and feeling about came up during yoga and mediation. After class one day I was in the city and I burst into tears. I was thinking, WTF I’m not sad. But as they say, the body stores emotions and they come up during yoga. Yes they did. So what did I do? I let myself feel. If I was sad, I let myself feel sad. If I was bored, I let myself feel bored. This was a month of reflection. I discovered first hand, that emotions always pass.

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The fourth month, was my epiphany month
Eleanor Ozich, who I used to play dolls with when I was five, started a blog 3 years along the journey she was on of healing her daughter’s extreme eczema. After posting recipes on Facebook, her friends convinced her to start Petite Kitchen. 18 later she has written a cook book, produce a calendar, and has lucrative deals writing articles in New Zealand’s national newspaper, The News Zealand herald and has recently opened a very hip café in Auckland’s Kingsland called ‘Mondays”. After reading an interview on her in while walking across the business park coming back from lunch at Top Paddock, I literally stopped in the middle of the grass strip riveted by her story. It came to me – why the bloody hell can’t I do that? That night I registered and started what you are reading today.

The last two months have been a whirlwind
Writing 6-7 articles a week while continue to progress at my day job as an Online Operations Manager isn’t always easy. After working 40 hours at week at work, I come home to another 20-40 hours of work at home. Sometimes the washing and housework doesn’t get done and all I can be bothered making for dinner is eggs on toast.

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I’m not complaining though – I love every bit of it. It’s my choice. I decided this. I am very lucky to be privileged enough to have the space in my life that affords me the luxury of time to work on this. I am not wasting this opportunity. I am very clear in what I want to do now, and I’m no longer a slave to the Wine Witch that keeps me zombie out on the couch wasting time. Alcohol is no longer is my head – I am too busy. Occasionally when we are out eating or whatever, I’m almost surprised when they hand me a wine list. That’s just me though – I think everyone can read my mind.

So what’s next? Well I can’t predict the future, but I am quietly confident I can continue this path. In the last 6 months I have changed my mind, my body and my life. I have taken this journey and I am learning to live in the present.

Hard work has produced a blog I can be proud of. It’s a documentation of all the things I was already doing in my life anyways – but now more than my friends can experience it. 1000 people are actively engaged in what I am sharing. And with a bit of work, that could be 10k, 20k, 200k – you never know!

What I do know, is that this would have never happened by just hoping. It happened by doing. Big things start all the same way – you just have to start.big-things-all-start-the-way-you-just-have-to-start

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  • Hey Catalina, just wondering if you followed any steps or tasks to achieve your sobriety. I’m impressed with this story and was thinking of doing the same. I’m a red vino drinker, and finding it extemely hatd to kick the habit… I’ve recently quit smoking to sAve money but after crunching numbers soon found out that the ‘drank’ was making the bank dwindle too… Have you heard of the book The Artists Way by Julian Cameron ? My psychiatrist from a while back was trying to push it on me because I didnt want to take antidepressants and wanted to know if following steps to accomplosh things like sobriety is actually legit. Thanks for the added boost of inspiration, miss… A bit of common ground goes a long way. -peace -Ashley

    • Hi Ashley,

      Thank you for your kind words. In a round about way I followed many steps to achieving my sobriety – first it took having a look at myself and who I wanted to be, and drinking wasn’t a quality of that person. The way I got there was quite individual to me, as will be your own path. The drank will definitely cost you a lot of money (and perhaps more), but it is possible for you to start a fresh each and every day – so don’t be too hard on yourself if you are not getting there as fast as you want – it probably took me about 3 years and now it has been almost 7 months.

      The book that really helped me solidify my intention in my mind was ‘How to Kick the Drink… Easily’ by Jason vale – however, that was the last book out of a lot of books I had read, as well as after doing a bunch of sober months, using hypnotherapy and a lot of self development. You journey will be individual to you and what you find works might be different to mine – the main thing is that you have the courage to try and can keep going until you get the result you want. It is a very exciting and positive journey so enjoy it.

      I have never read ‘The Artists Way’ – a beautiful book of a similar nature I have read though is ‘The Journey’ by Brandon Bays – this also helped me in many ways to get over old boring emotional baggage.

      I don’t believe you need drugs to quit and it is very real that you can live a life of sobriety and not just survive but thrive. and are two really good examples of thousands of people doing just that. Removing alcohol from ones diet can do wonders for the body and it can tend to bring up emotions you have been shoving down. If you find you are hormonal or up and down, reading Dr Libby’s ‘Rushing Woman Syndrome’ or any of her other books will guide you into how to naturally level out your hormones through food, thought and movement.

      I wish you well on your journey – the best is yet to come for you Ashley.



  • Excellent. Thanks a million for the leads… Will definitely look into those books/pages… I keep looking forward to be free of anything that impedes my ability to use my creative vices to their full potential, and this is certainly the first step to many more i’m sure. It’s been about a year now that i’ve been on again off again with drinking, and theres still plenty of research to be had. Thanks for the encouragement and suggestions, and congrats on the 7 months… You rock.


  • Man, I needed this! Thank you so much for sharing! I love your honesty. The boredom part really hit home for me. I am sooo getting that book!

  • Thank you so much for sharing this! A friend just re-grammed a post of yours on Instagram and it led me back here. Funny thing is, I was only talking this morning about wanting to give up drinking (for all the reasons you’ve listed) but not being sure how friends/family would take it with upcoming birthdays and holiday season. I was planning on the ‘antibiotics’ excuse but your honest post has made me see this is simply making excuses to myself. I’m owning this life move!


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